Lost the drive or just not feeling ‘it?’ Don’t worry because there are many possible explanations. Doctors and professors within the medical community have acknowledged that it’s normal for women to have waves of feeling frisky and times when they would rather avoid sex. Here are six aspects of concern that contribute to the twelve most common things that result in women having a lower sexual desire.
Libido and What You Need to Know
What was once a buzz-worthy word has become the source of a fair amount of confusion. Libido is simply sexual desire, and it ranges from ‘I want none' to ‘I want some right now please.' The fluctuation is something that both men and women experience daily.
If you feel like you've lost your spunk, or that your loss of interest in sex is not because of a natural ebb and flow see a doctor.
1. Interpersonal Relationship Troubles
Issues with your partner or others can impact your sexual desire. Generally, if you aren't feeling loved or lack an emotional connection, your libido can dip for long periods.
Things may finally seem on the mend while you're getting back into a good routine, but there's no want for your partner or anyone else. Females who experience depression and seek medical help may experience this unpleasant side effect.
Which Antidepressants Cause These Side Effects?
Everyone reacts to medication differently, but Celexa(citalopram), Lexapro(escitalopram), Prozac(fluoxetine), and Zoloft(sertraline) frequently have sexual side effects. Antidepressants often lead to a lowered libido because they prevent the production of hormones that our bodies use to kickstart the desire for sex.
Everyday Tasks Impact Your Sex Life
Depending on your daily routine, your sex life may be suffering from something rather easy to resolve, such as diet, exercise, medications, or sleeping habits.
3. Not Enough Sleep
Everyone is busy, but if you’re missing out on your eight hours, you might be damaging your libido and missing out on quality time with your partner. Even getting just one more hour of sleep can increase your chances of sexual activity by 14%.
4. Alcohol or Drug Consumption
While it may seem like a drink is the way to loosen up a little after work and ease into some romance, it might be the reason your sex drive is low. There is a point of no return with alcohol and heavy drinking directly impacts the hormone regulation within the reproductive system.
Is Alcohol Causing This Lack of Desire?
Alcohol is impacting your sex drive in more than one way. Heavy drinking in the pre-menopause years can lead to many reproductive disorders, including:
- Early menopause
- Irregular menstrual cycles
- Menstrual cycles without ovulation
- Low testosterone production
- Low estrogen production
Sexual Dysfunction in Women
Sexual dysfunction has a bad reputation because most dysfunctions are treatable. Often women will have trouble not only initiating sex but achieving any pleasure from it.
5. Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder
For a long time, this went undiagnosed, and unfortunately, many women simply don't seek help this disorder now. HSDD, the common acronym for the disorder affects about 10% of women. HSDD comes with symptoms including little or no interest in sex, few fantasies, no interest in initiating sex, and lack of pleasure from stimulation.
Don’t dismiss these symptoms as changes associated with age or pregnancy. There are medical and therapeutic treatments available.
6. Low Testosterone
Testosterone fuels the sex drives of men and women. During a women's twenties, they're at the peak with a steady level of testosterone feeding a healthy sex drive. Women in their twenties who are experiencing a low sexual desire should seek medical attention as it may be a problem with hormone production.
Factors Affecting Women’s Drive
Any sex drive depends on hormones which can make diagnosing sexual disorders difficult. Everything from the amount of exercise you get to how much water you drink can impact your libido. A lower libido than usual may be a sign that you’re missing out on key elements that feed your hormone production.
Medical Problems and Preventative Care
Medical problems of a wide variety can lead to a lowered sex drive. Carefully evaluate your current medical conditions before deciding to partake in any further medical intervention. When it comes to managing your sex drive, other medical concerns may take precedence.
Oral contractive, as well as hormonal contraceptives, can put a damper on your sex drive. Women's libidos are often impacted by estrogen, which is one of the major factors in birth control. Birth control will often cause the body to mimic pregnancy, and pregnancy often leads to a lowered sex drive.
8. Fibroids, Endometriosis, and Thyroid Disorders
Working with these disorders daily is difficult. At the best of times, you deal with heavy menstrual cycles, and at the worst of times, you experience dizziness, nausea, and blinding pain. These disorders specifically impact the reproductive system, so it's no wonder that women experiencing these disorders report a low desire to partake in sex.
How Does Endometriosis and Thyroid Issues Contribute to this Problem?
Sexual desire relies on both mental and physical health. Endometriosis compels many women to seek physical help. However, the emotional pain that comes with the disorder is often not handled. Additionally, thyroid issues are known to have associations with depression, weight gain, and self-image, which usually means these disorders come with mental and physical obstacles as well.
Low Female Sexual Desire and Age
Is it true that women just lose interest in sex? No, that's a long-standing myth. As women get older, they are often inclined to become more adventurous. However, there are a few major points in time when women may go through a lull.
During menopause, you may go through various changes in estrogen levels. While your estrogen levels will fluctuate here and there during this time, they are trying to find a new ‘normal.’ The wide changes can lead to outright disinterest in sex. Many doctors are working with women to explore estrogen therapy through creams, shots, and pills.
10. ‘Golden’ Years
There is no age that women should stop having sex. However, many women report feeling less driven towards sexual fantasy or arousal after menopause. Why? Many women speculate that it’s simply because they feel older rather than a physical concern.
Aging and Myths
Although there is a lot about age involved in sex talk, there is little evidence to support that age generally impacts your libido.
Everything You Already Know About Your Health
Don’t dismiss your doctor’s advice about diet and exercise. You should take their words as seriously as if they were on a prescription pad.
11. Not Enough Exercise
Anything you usually do isn't exercise, so the steps you racked up walking around the house don't necessarily count. Many people know, either from the advice of a doctor or innately, that exercise can benefit most areas of your life. Your low sexual desire is one of those things that exercise can impact.
12. Stress Levels are Too High
Similar to exercise, stress can impact your hormones and physiological well-being. If you've felt overly stressed lately, ask for help. Ask your partner, a friend, a family member, or a doctor.
Proper Self Care
Caring for yourself covers everything from maintaining a healthy and balanced diet to enjoying a bit of quiet time. Regardless of why your libido is down, you need to evaluate how you're caring for yourself. You likely need to speak with a doctor to find a treatment or therapy that can get your sex drive back on track.